After two years of cleaning, organizing, moving, unpacking and packing, you would think I had seen it all.
But I hadn’t.
Yesterday, Tyler Ottinger, a designer at OSV dropped me a note and attached a photo – one that I’d never seen before.
Backstory:
The photo was taken at St. Felix Friary in Huntington in 2005. The Capuchin friary was built in 1928. Fr. Solanus Casey was there for a time, and Fr. Benedict Groeschel served his – (I think) – novitiate there. The friary shut down and was sold to a group associated with the United Brethren Church in 1978, but just last year was sold again, to a foundation with Catholic connections which is in the process of renovating the property so that it can be used as a retreat center.
A group of brothers visited the friary late last month and returned furnishings that had been scattered throughout the building to their proper places.
Huge tables, built by the brothers who once lived in the friary, were located and returned to the dining hall.
“It looks like it looked 50 or 60 years ago,” Rieder says. “It’s just beautiful. There’s not a nail in the whole table, but they weigh a ton.”
The friars, Wharton says, were self-sufficient – they made their own furniture as well as their own clothing; they grew their own fruits and vegetables; and they had their own vineyard.
While the building is showing its years – it was built in 1928 – Wharton and Rieder both say it’s in good shape.
“The Brethren took good care of the building,” Rieder says. “They kept one room as a shrine to Father Solanus Casey. I admire them for doing that.”The room is locked, but its contents are easily visible through a window in the door. A brown robe lies on the small bed, and an old-fashioned rotary telephone sits on an unadorned desk.
Overgrown brush and 120 dead trees have been removed from the grounds. Under the direction of Fort Wayne contractor Bob Rowlett, stone fences and a shrine to the Virgin Mary have been restored. The roof has been repaired, new windows will be installed and the old brick building will be tuck-pointed. Inside, volunteers are painting and plumbing problems are being corrected. The heating system will be improved, but air conditioning isn’t in the cards, Mayo said. Many visitors want to feel what Casey and other residents felt, even the occasional discomfort. Other historic features will remain as well, including wooden latches in place of many doorknobs and steel pull-down fire doors – unusual in a building of that era.
As built, St. Felix had room for 120 residents – most doubled up in small rooms with barely enough room for two twin beds and a dresser. The United Brethren reduced the number of rooms by knocking out some walls, but otherwise the place is mostly intact, with original woodwork and art still visible.
It was one of Mike’s favorite places to take people on tour. The Brethren welcomed visitors, and while they used the property, they really had not done much to obscure its origins. To tell the truth, Mike always thought that OSV should have purchased the property and moved their offices out there.
Anyway, I am astonished at this photo. The painted emblem above the doorframe is the type that’s above every doorframe in the property. I imagine that in this photo Fr. Groeschel is showing Mike where Fr. Solanus’ room was, as well as his own.
I told my daughter once that the tipping point of grief and loss seems to be that point at which you are confronted with the reality of loss or a strong reminder of the one who has gone and the feeling of gratitude for the person’s life on earth starts to outweigh – even a little bit – the feeling of being kicked in the stomach. So. Deo Gratias.









What a beautiful final paragraph. Artist Danny Gregory (Every Day Matters) lost his wife, the true love of his life last year following a long, long battle which followed many years of learning to live differently after she survived a near fatal accident. She was the one, Danny write and draws, who lifted him up even though she was the one who had to be constantly cared for. He wrote something very similar to what you’ve said here about that tipping point. Thank you for continuing to share online. God bless you continued “unpacking.”
What an extraordinary photo. Bless you all!
The photograph is beautiful. Coming across a picture you’ve never seen before of a loved one is a breathtaking experience.
I stumbled on your blog recently after losing track of it for several years. I was pained to read of your loss, and I send my sympathy on this second anniversary.
Monica
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God bless you and your family, Amy.
Thank you for opening comments so we can let you know we are here, care about you, and pray for you.
Thank you for all the writing you do and the way you let us into your soul. It is a comfort to me to follow you; in a strange way your journey brings me closer to my sister, who lost a child three years ago.
Take care of yourself.
One word: NEAT!
Beautiful – thank you.
A lovely reflection, Amy!
You know, I was working in Catholic radio and attended the CMA gathering in Chicago– what, maybe 10-12 years ago? No, even more? Michael was one of the authors I gathered up for an interview with Al Kresta, and I remember him telling us that he was engaged to be married. He was so happy– and we were happy along with him, when we learned that his bride-to-be was you. What a power couple in the vineyard!
May your memories of the love you shared sustain you as you go forward. God bless.
Love it!!!!!
Deo Gratias, indeed! 3 years out, we are beginning to discover that we can laugh about him, as in “be very glad your father didn’t live to see that, missy”. Not always of course, but sometimes. It is a messy, hard process. You and the kids are in my prayers.
God bless you, Amy. This is so touching.
. . . just a glimpse of God’s love for you, Amy.
God bless you, Amy. And Deo Gratias for the many reminders you provide for your readers to be grateful in everything.
Greetings from Austria!
..I’m glad you are at that tipping point. It’s funny how things work. My younger sister lost her first daughter to SIDS at 5 months 10 years ago. I think she was at the tipping point 4 years ago when we found a roll (!) of film that hadn’t been developed and a few pictures of the baby were on the roll- my sister was more excited than sad to get a few more pictures.
Thank you, Amy, for your writings, which reach so many of us in our circumstances. You and your family remain in our prayers.
And a special thank you for posting the Julie Miller songs. After listening to the two songs last week, I downloaded the entire Broken Things album and have been listening since. Tremendous.
I love her. She has been ill for several years and rarely performs live. Her husband Buddy is good too and plays often with many other artists including Emmylou Harris.
What a gift on that particular day! Deo Gratis! An example of God’s abounding grace when we don’t expect it…thank you so much for sharing and helping us to believe…prayers sent your way.
I agree, the last paragraph is the most beautiful part of a most beautiful post.
Deo Gratis indeed!